Jagged Little Pill
Mind Tricks I often console myself with the idea that I raised my children to be independent and self-sufficient enough to not need me. It's a mind trick. I also tell myself that if they are happier without me, then I must rejoice in the fact that they're happy. After all, we want our children to be happy, right? Another mind trick. I even sometimes say out loud that my relationship with them is better than it's ever been after eight years of estrangement. Zero conflict and drama in my life. None of these tricks address my emotions at all, but they do help. It took time for the emotions of the losses to catch up and resolve. Jagged Little Pill Actually, I'm mostly okay having worked through the history and seeing it for what it is, owning what's mine and discarding the rest. As Alanis Morrisette so beautifully sang so long ago, "you live, you learn." As I now see it, there's no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then. Nothin...
